Thursday, 4pm PST/ 7pm ESTSo many of us struggle with keeping our cool in the moments that we need it the most.
Often in our intimate relationships (precisely because the relationship means so much to us), we get the most scared, the most defensive, and either shut down altogether or reveal our inner werewolf fangs just as the WORST words come tumbling out of our mouths at the wrong moment.
We know it’s not a good idea to speak them, and that they are 99% likely to result in disconnect, downfall, and a spiral of mutual blame and shame, but we just. can’t. stop. ourselves.Oy. It’s humbling being a human sometimes.But the good news is there is hope – we *can* change our habitual patterns of reactivity. Even if we can’t stop our initial “I want to choke this person” thought, we *can* have an impact on what comes out of our mouths, and thus preserve our bridge (or thin, unraveling thread!) of connection in the moments we need it the most.Through a practice of emergency self-care, and learning to meet our inner raging gremlins with kind, compassionate curiosity and presence rather than further disdain, we can begin to disrupt the patterns of painful disconnect that undermine our closest relationships.Join us this Thursday, 4pm PST/7pm EST for a FREE, NVC and somatics-based teleclass to help you respond with a clean, calm, cool heart in the moments that your relationship is ablaze.
Learn 5 practical steps you can take to offer a soothing balm to those inevitable moments of relationship wildfire, and help you access your capacity to avert disaster and choose care for the relationships that mean the most to you.
Marina Smerling is a former attorney turned life and relationship coach for women, and a trainer with Bay Area Nonviolent Communication (NVC). Marina draws upon over a decade of training in NVC, Hakomi mindfulness-based therapy, and nondual spiritual practice to support women's evolution through the composting of shame into radical self-love. She’s a recent transplant from Berkeley, CA to Gainesville, FL, and delighted to support shameless hearts near and far. Learn more at www.shamelessheart.com
“Marina has helped me give voice to the wounded and shamed pieces of me through empathy and play, allowing me to be so aware of my own destructive self-talk. This woman has absolutely empowered me and inspires me to be the most open-hearted, uninhibited, and loving version of me. I hold so much gratitude for the gifts and tools she has brought into my life.” – Melanie, Student
“Marina is the genuine article: authentic, vulnerable, compassionate and wise. She holds a solid space for others to move boldly forward and open their hearts to themselves. I adore her dedication to the simple idea that we are each precious beyond measure. Her work has opened my heart and allowed several miracles to happen in my life.” - Colleen, Writer & Multi-Media Artist“I can’t say enough how working with Marina has changed my life and those around me." – Michelle, Social Worker